so our adopted kids have these huge holes in their lives that we can't fill. as a parent i find that exasperating! shouldn't i be able to provide for all their needs? to show them that they are loved and accepted by their parents, and even a heavenly Father who cares for them so? no ... i must recognise that in this i cannot meet their needs.
enter stage left: a special kind of friend. friends who provide a different perspective.
|Lea sharing her special|
drawing and pics.
i thank God for these friends in our lives. for us as parents they provide feedback and insight from a perspective that makes all the difference in the world in how i engage with some of our kids issues. for our kids because they can see an adult, who is like them! they are adopted and get what those holes are in their lives. how precious!
i do think our kids are on the young side of understanding and appreciating the blessing that these relationships are. but that's ok. it's all about building a foundation. these relationships, in some form or another, will provide a grounding for our kids. and when they are older they will have a sense of comfort with these friends and probably dump painful stuff on them because they have a safe relationship with them already. and our daughter, even at 8, lights up when she sees these special friends because she gets that they are "like her".
i imagine i'll be jealous as these relationships continue to develop. wanting to be able to provide the answers myself rather than pushing them towards people who i know "get it." but .... i would rather push them to people i know, love and respect for their answers than having them go out the door and face the darkness of their inner demons alone. so, yes .... i'll be jealous. but i'll get over it .... because i love my kids too much to not want them to have these relationships.
|these special kinship |
relationships start early!
its a special kinship. it's the unspoken knowledge in our children's hearts that they are understood in a very special way.